Should I move in with my partner?
Moving in compounds money, autonomy, and meaning into one decision. Before you sign a lease, get explicit on what each of you expects to gain — and what you are quietly afraid to lose. Selv-a walks both partners through the same reflection.
Reflect with Selv-a — about 10 minutesWhat to actually weigh
Is this a step or a shortcut?
Moving in to save rent is different from moving in because you are ready. Both can be valid — but only one will hold up under stress.
What does autonomy look like for each of you?
Solo time, separate finances, friendships outside the relationship. Spell out what you each need to stay yourself.
What is the worst-case exit?
Healthy decisions can survive being looked at honestly. Talk about what would happen if it did not work — before you need to.
Frequently asked
How do I know if we are ready to move in together?
Readiness is not a feeling, it is a set of agreements: money, chores, conflict, time apart. If you have not had the boring conversations, you are not ready yet.
What questions should we ask before moving in?
Money split, household labor, alone time, what counts as a fight, and what an exit would look like. Selv-a guides both partners through these in parallel.