The decisions people postpone the most
Each one starts with a question you have already been carrying. Pick the one closest to yours, then take ten minutes to think it through with Selv-a.
Should I quit my job?
Quitting is rarely a yes/no question — it is a tradeoff between security, identity, and energy. Name what the job is costing you, what leaving would cost, and what you would actually do next. Ten minutes of structured reflection beats months of circling.
Should I move in with my partner?
Moving in compounds money, autonomy, and meaning into one decision. Before you sign a lease, get explicit on what each of you expects to gain — and what you are quietly afraid to lose. Selv-a walks both partners through the same reflection.
How to decide between two job offers?
Compensation is the easy axis — and usually the wrong tiebreaker. Compare the version of you each role is shaping over 24 months: skills, network, energy, optionality. The right offer is the one whose tradeoffs you can live with on a bad day.
How to leave a relationship?
Leaving is rarely about the breakup — it is about admitting the relationship has already changed. Name what you have been protecting by staying, then plan the exit slowly: clarity first, conversation second, logistics third.